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Anxiety; I don't think I'm pretty

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We live in a society where we constantly being compared and judged.  You are a girl do you have white skin? smooth cute face? You are a guy do you have a 6packs? Are you tall? You are gay? you don't "look" gay. You are transgender? you got plastic surgery? you are so fake. I am not proud to say I am living in this generation. Where people starve themselves just so that they can get skinnier for an Instagram picture. Where people give comment on someone's appearance like it's nothing. Where women don't date men that are shorter than them. Where men don't date women that are taller than them. Where mom would force her son to take pills to be taller. Where dad would force his daughter to get bigger breasts. It's sickening. I am insecure, I get anxious when I dress, I don't know if it looks good on me. I am insecure about my height, skin color and ... I am scared of other people's opinions on how they see me. And I am ac...

Love; I don't know what is it anymore

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So I have been single for 3 years now. Since I ended my first relationship, I have never started another one. So yes I have one ex-boyfriend so far. My first relationship was pretty toxic. That was an understatement. My first relationship was very toxic. We were young, I got major anxiety and depression issues. None of us really understands what is going on. And I am actually glad we broke up. Credit to  Victoriia Rusyn The first year after the break-up, I was recovering. I tried going into relationships but I still have my toxic pattern and I basically ruin the relationship over and over again. The 2nd year after the break-up, I am mild healing I start going into relationships with recognized-behavior, where I understand my pattern and tried to out-pattern them. But somehow my fear and uncertainty of love gave me commitment issue. The 3rd year after the break-up (Now, currently) I am healing. I start getting into relationships with confidence and self...

Time; What if he's not the one?

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Now I have no problem with believing whether he's the one or not. But I know other people out there who are currently in a relationship but still asking themselves is he/she the one for me? Am I going to love him/her forever? will he/she love me forever? And the uncertainty kills us slowly but surely. Some people found validation on the question so they got grounded. But for some people who never got the validation they needed, they end up hurting themselves or the other person because they think "we are not the one for each other, sooner or later we are going to broke up anyway" Bro it's toxic Can you imagine being in a relationship where you constantly thinking whether this relationship will last as long as you hope too but you still doubt yourself because of some inner issues or he is just a total jack ass. Now, this is the two-part to "is he the one?" One. It might just be your anxiety talking, thinking you are not enough and he is going to get bor...